Hm, do you know why they do it? Talk to them about it? Do you try to help them in any way or do you just complain about how annoying it is that they don't go around spilling their problems on everyone? Cause if you don't understand them, then that's it, you don't understand them. They're probably going through a lot.
The main person that frustrated me the most by this was my first girlfriend.
If I didn't understand why she was upset then she would be upset with me for not understanding. But at the same time, she fought explaining herself or telling me how she felt because perhaps she felt it made her look weak or something silly like that. So I would have to insist that she tell me what she actually meant until she finally did and then we could talk about it and I could listen and care for her in that way BUT other times she would say "Fine" in the same way and when i insist she either use a different word or explain better, she would just get pissed off because I didnt give up... -_- So either she was mad at me for insisting on knowing or she was upset because 'I didnt care enough to find out'
So it bothers me when people say fine because it doesn't answer the question at all and it doesn't help the situation in any way...
kind of like you showed in your poem.
I can see how your poem can be so accurate from a certain point of view... I'm just showing you what one view of the opposite side can look like.
I know exactly how much that hurts and I get what you're saying, but I think these people are just as confused as you are. It's hard to sort out emotions when there are a lot of really strong ones, and it's hard to get close to people.
It can be hard... but I'm one of those people that dwells on things untill I understand them, including myself. I understand myself pretty well and I wish more people took the time to understand themselves...
That doesnt mean I dont get upset or have feelings it doesnt even make me less sensitive much... It just helps me to understand why I feel what I feel, and to react in the best way... most of the time D: So yeah... I wasnt very confused, in fact... I think I understood her better than she did.
Actually do to recent events i'm about 95% sure that I have understood her way more than she did.
And yeah.. it's hard to get close to people you don't trust... just another way that kinda hurt... because it showed she didnt trust me. But that's three years dead now so dont be upset by it, these are just experiences you may find interesting and/or choose to learn from... idk